Congrats to my long-ago colleague Brigid Schulte, who just received a starred review in Publishers Weekly for her new book, Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time:
On her quest to turn her “time confetti” into “time serenity,” journalist Schulte finds that, while it’s worse for women and hits working mothers the hardest, what she calls the “Overwhelm” cuts across gender, income, and nationality to contaminate time, shrink brains, impair productivity, and reduce happiness. Investigating the “great speed-up” of modern life, Schulte surveys the “time cages” of the American workplace, the “stalled gender revolution” in the home, and the documented necessity for play, and discovers that the “aimless whirl” of American life runs on a conspiracy of “invisible forces”: outdated notions of the Ideal Worker; the cult of motherhood; antiquated national family policies; and the “high status of busyness.” The result is our communal “time sickness.” Schulte takes a purely practical and secular approach to a question that philosophers and spiritual teachers have debated for centuries—how to find meaningful work, connection, and joy—but her research is thorough and her conclusions fascinating, her personal narrative is charmingly honest, and the stakes are high: the “good life” pays off in “sustainable living, healthy populations, happy families, good business, [and] sound economies.” While the final insights stretch thin, Schulte unearths the attitudes and “powerful cultural expectations” responsible for our hectic lives, documents European alternatives to the work/family balance, and handily summarizes her solutions in an appendix. Agent: Gail Ross, Ross Yoon Agency. (Mar.)
Brigid Schulte
Brigid was the reporter I hired as Lee Bandy’s successor in The State‘s Washington Bureau. My memories of her sort of illustrate the theme of her book. First, there’s the way we met. I went to Washington in January 1993 — there was snow on the ground of the Mall around the booths set up for the first Clinton inauguration, which was to occur a few days later. I had set up interviews with a number of candidates, using an empty office in the Knight Ridder Washington Bureau as my base. But Brigid was out of town, and wasn’t getting back until almost exactly the moment my returning flight left.
So we met in the airport, as she was coming and I was going. I was sufficiently impressed to bring her down to Columbia for further interviews. We ended up hiring her. About a year later, she got drafted by the KR national staff, and not long after that moved on to The Washington Post.
Another quick anecdote: She was covering the round of BRAC hearings that led to the closing of Myrtle Beach Air Force Base. The climax of the process occurred on a Sunday afternoon. I happened to have the desk duty that day, and Brigid was having to wait for it all to happen, then write the story and somehow catch a train on which she was to depart with her then-new husband on vacation. This was before cellphones. She filed the story (on a Radio Shack TRS-80, I guess) at a time when it seemed physically impossible for her still to catch the train. Of course, I wasn’t going to let her go until I had the story.
Then there was the matter of calling in to answer my questions after I had read it. She did so, literally breathless and a bit dazed, from a phone on the train — which in those days was a technological marvel. “I’m on the train!” she shouted. “I’m on the phone, on the train! I’m calling you from the train! I made it!” That’s wonderful, I said. Now, here are my questions…
Of course, life has become even more hectic since that time. I mean, she didn’t even have kids back then.
So, I have to wonder: How did she find time to write a book? I always wonder that — I marvel that anyone finds time in a lifetime to do that — but I particularly wonder, given that she knows so well how insane modern life is. Well enough to write a book about it.
But she was always well-organized. She used to carry two notebooks — one for the live stories that day, another for enterprise stuff she was working on for later. I suppose that, while working on this book, she carried a third. Or the electronic equivalent of a third…
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I note, from Facebook, that Brigid’s female friends especially like the book. Then I note, from the review, that it holds forth on the “‘stalled gender revolution’ in the home.”
That sounds ominous, guys. Maybe one of us should read it, and report back to the rest of us on what sort of new strategies to expect from women who read it. And we would do that, of course, if guys were into mutually supporting and helping each other. Which we’re not…
Caveman no read book…
Yes, that big problem. Cavewoman read book all time, get smarter than caveman…
They’ll still need us to open pickle jars and reach things on the top shelf.
Hi Brad! So much fun to read this post and remember that wonderful time working with you for the State. Truly, you were one of the best and most thoughtful editors I’ve had in my career!
How did I find the TIME to write this book:
Two reasons:
1. Book Leave
And the generous support of The New America Foundation – which helped us pay our mortgage.
and
2. The stalled gender revolution in my house got unstalled. You can read all about it in the book – I write about how easily BOTH my husband and I slipped into traditional gender roles without meaning to, without realizing it, when our son was born, and continued to slide unconsciously further, mimicking the role models we’d known growing up – particularly me with my working mother guilt, comparing myself to my mother and other stay at home mothers. Part of the journey of the book was taking out my notebook and taking long walks with Tom, my husband, reporter’s notebook in hand to figure out what had happened, what we both really wanted, and how to divide work, home and kids equitably so we all had time for what’s important. So we began to share, instead of me feeling like I was doing it all, or responsible for making sure it all got done.
Otherwise, this book would NEVER have gotten written.
Thanks for sharing, Brigid! And for the kind words, of course…